I've been avoiding the blog for a week now because I've caved in.
My great-aunt passed away at the age of 95 after a great and influential life, and I was in the city after a meeting, walked into David Jones and was so upset over it, I went and bought myself a really expensive dress to wear to the funeral. It was the first one I saw, tried on, and the whole process took 15 minutes.
Do you like how I've tried to justify the purchase first??
My husband's first response was "are you going to let your blog know that you've bought something new??"....(ie - not happy jan!)
I've felt so guilty about it so much since that I just don't think I'll get much enjoyment out of it. I've not even gone grocery shopping this past week to try and 'make up' for it.
And yes, I did wear it to the funeral so I can't return it.
On the up side, the guit far outweighed the 3 minutes happiness it gave me, so I won't be rushing back to the shops in a hurry.
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You could just decide it's your healing crisis, therefore a jolly good sign (ie: you went back to old habits but this time they didn't make you feel good therefore you won't be tempted to do it again. Or something like that...) and just move on. Sort of like scoffing a whole bar of chocolate after a few weeks of a health eating regime, feeling sick, then the next day going back to eating healthily.
Besides you had a damned good excuse...
Thank you - that DOES make me feel better. It's exactly how I feel.
Thinking about it afterwards, it's actually really interesting how grief and sadness triggered in me the need to go into a shop and purchase. I've probably done it all my life and never even noticed.
I have a dilemma - recently single - have needed new winter clothes for a couple of seasons, very tall so op shops are no use for winter as nothing fits.
I have been for a pedicure instead but - I NEED NEW CLOTHES
please help
Alison A
Alsion
Try some of the recycle type shops - they have pretty good quality (often designer)and an interesting range. More expensive than op shops but you can get some good gear. There are quite a few in Melbourne - so I guess they are in most places.
No reason you shouldn't look good! good luck with it.
If you feel guilty about the dress,you'll probably never wear it again. Why not sell it on Ebay immediately - you may even get close to your money back since it has only been worn once. Otherwise, make a pact to wear it once a week for the whole year, therefore less guilt.
Enjoying your blog. Have been doing my own slightly modified Compact since Jan 1. Good luck!
in the spirit of confession, I Shopped. I cracked I have no excuse it was willful and it was decadent.
I swear I will wear everything (yes there were 5 things) until it wears out.
Dear AC
I'm really sorry to hear about your loss.
I think you can go easy on yourself. You've achieved a lot more than most by just considering what you are buying every other day of the week. You've bought it now. Try and enjoy it. Get your money's worth and look after yourself for a little while. I'm with shopping sherpa on the chocolate analogy
As for 'enquiring minds' dilemma- The original compactors had a 'Jubilee Day' after a year. My own plan is one every six months ( I feared I might need one- my thongs are nearly worn through and finding my size second hand might take a year)
Perhaps you could spend some time considering what you really need, then spend a day seeking it out- new or otherwise. Even just limiting yourself to planning, then going out to buy the things on your list in one day, will limit the amount of 'collateral damage'- the junky stuff you don't really need, and keep you on the job of finding and buying only what you need... the clock will be ticking... only 8 shopping hours etc (You could window shop for as many weeks as you like beforehand!That's free and carbon neutral as far as I know- but you'd have to be strong!)
As Alana said in her post- quality and consideration will limit the 'damage' you might do by shopping.
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